Hiring a surrogate

When we made it through the 1st trimester on our 4th IVF try, we were overjoyed but also still so scared that we’d not go full term. I had already had a miscarriage and let’s face it I wasn’t getting any younger!

After a lot soul searching we decided that surrogacy would help ensure that we’d have a baby in the next year. We placed 2 embryos in our surrogate and wound up with beautiful twin girls in addition to the baby girl I carried. The story is remarkable and had a happy ending but it was a certainly a journey. Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a complete control freak. To relinquish control to a stranger, a thoroughly vetted stranger, but nevertheless a stranger was excruciating. I was so grateful to this woman for giving this gift but I also wanted to make sure that she was eating healthy, exercising, driving safely etc etc. in the end I found my inner calm, trusted that we chose the right person and kept in constant contact. I spoke to every doctor, made sure her groceries are organic, got her massages to keep her comfortable- I took control of the things I could and just prayed it would work out. Thank goodness it all worked out. My surrogate was a dream and I will forever be thankful to her for carrying my daughters so safely and healthy.